Sound familiar? You kill yourself to make sure everyone likes you. You tend to go above and beyond, agree when you want to disagree, and bend yourself in ways that don't feel organic—just to avoid that awful feeling of being disliked.
I was that person. The classic people-pleaser who’d rather grin and bear it than cause even the smallest disturbance. I was so terrified of people not liking me that I once apologized to a chair after bumping into it. Not my proudest moment.
But you know what… that all changed when I began sharing my work online.
The first time a stranger left a mean comment on my content, I felt punched in the gut. I obsessed over it for days. What did I do wrong? How could I fix it? Should I delete everything and retreat back into my comfort zone?
So, here’s what you should know—that moment of discomfort was actually the beginning of my freedom.
Over time, I came to understand that pressure is a privilege. The criticism, the pushback, even the hate comments—those are signs your work is reaching people and having an impact.
Think about it: Has any truly great creator ever been universally loved? Did Picasso, Banksy, or even Steve Jobs create work that everyone adored? Absolutely not!
If Picasso released his work today, the comments would probably say, “My five-year-old draws better noses than this guy.”
True art reveals secrets, but not everybody wants to hear them. Not everyone is ready for them. And that's perfectly okay.
In fact, if absolutely everyone loves what you’re making, you might be playing it too safe. You’re probably not saying anything meaningful enough to ruffle feathers.
The algorithms of the internet are actually designed to place your work in front of both the right AND wrong audiences.
When someone dislikes your work, it’s not a failure—it’s confirmation that:
- Your work is distinctive enough to provoke a reaction
- You’re pushing beyond your comfort zone
- You’re creating something that’s true to YOU
The people who don’t resonate with your message simply aren’t your people. And that’s beautiful! Because somewhere, the right people are finding you and saying, “Finally, someone who gets it.”
Being disliked for your authentic expression is actually one of the greatest compliments a creator can receive. It means you’re making waves instead of just splashing around in the kiddie pool of creativity.
But I know this journey can feel incredibly lonely at times. Those moments of self-doubt and uncertainty can be overwhelming when you’re facing them alone.
That’s why having someone in your corner who understands the creator journey can make all the difference. Someone who sees your vision and helps you stay true to it—even when the criticism comes (and it will come).
If you’re feeling that pressure and wondering if you’re on the right path, I’d love to be part of your journey. Feel free to reply to this email with a "what's up" or DM me on any socials.
I'm always on the lookout for new friends!
Creating with you,
P.S. Remember—if nobody dislikes your work, you probably haven’t found your voice yet. Let’s find it together.
Consider joining me for a 1:1 coaching session where we can discuss your challenges and create strategies to help you embrace the privilege of pressure.
Just hit reply and let me know you’re interested. I have a few spots open next week, and I’d be thrilled to chat!
